Moira Farr Archives - Mental Health Commission of Canada https://mentalhealthcommission.ca/post-author/moira-farr-2/ Mon, 06 Jul 2026 20:18:26 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=7.1 https://mentalhealthcommission.ca/wp-content/uploads/2026/09/mhcc-logo.png Moira Farr Archives - Mental Health Commission of Canada https://mentalhealthcommission.ca/post-author/moira-farr-2/ 32 32 In it together https://mentalhealthcommission.ca/catalyst/in-it-together/ Tue, 07 Jul 2026 08:06:59 +0000 https://mentalhealthcommission.ca/?post_type=catalyst&p=100237 Minneapolis made headlines last winter as a community caught up in a national crisis; a Canadian mental health workshop facilitator who visited at the time reflects on what he learned about stress and resiliency from its traumatized citizens.

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Minnesota is “absolutely stunning,” says Troy Miller. He travelled to Minneapolis from his home near Calgary, Alta., this past March to conduct mental health training workshops through the Mental Health Commission of Canada’s Opening Minds program, arriving at the tail end of a massive snowstorm. Miller was dazzled by the beauty of the state’s frozen lakes, dark conifers and deep snow, but he was well aware of what the city had recently been through. The chaotic arrival of armed ICE agents had led to the sudden detention or disappearance of friends and neighbours and the killings of two protestors.

Minneapolis has experienced an inordinate amount of trauma in recent years. The killing of George Floyd triggered a wave of protests that swept across the United States in 2020. In 2025, a state politician was assassinated, and there was a mass shooting at a Catholic school that killed two children and injured 17 other people. “These are ordinary people experiencing extraordinary events. That we all are witness to. We are watching history evolve here in real time. It’s important to understand that they’re impacted as well,” Miller says.

Miller is no stranger to witnessing trauma, having served as a paramedic and firefighter for 25 years. In his current role, he facilitates workplace courses across North America in sectors ranging from first response to health care, trades, and law. Each course has a common goal: to start conversations about the often-taboo subject of mental health in the workplace. As Miller points out, first responders have long suffered higher-than-average rates of depression, anxiety, substance abuse, and suicide. In the past, the attitude toward people suffering work-related psychological stress injuries in any sector was “suck it up.” But Miller is among many who now realize that that approach only makes matters worse. In the Commission’s Working Mind courses that he leads, he works to “normalize” discussions of mental health in the workplace: he wants mental health to be addressed as openly as physical health and safety. “We’re all better off than we were 25 years ago,” he says, when it comes to acknowledging the risks and dangers to mental health in all workplaces. The Working Mind courses have proven effective training tools for supporting this awareness. “They’re very up to date. They’re factual, they’re all research driven. That’s one of the hallmarks of these courses. We’re not making this up as we go. This is the data-driven stuff that is timely and effective.”

Troy Miller

Still, challenges to mental health will always exist, especially when communities are tested by circumstances as extraordinary as the ones Minneapolis has experienced in recent years. When Miller visited in March, he says he sensed “an undertone of grief and sadness” in the people he met, and a uniquely urgent desire to discuss not only workplace stresses but also how what was happening in their families and the wider community was affecting them and their colleagues. “The feeling seemed to be that they never got a break from the trauma; the stressors just kept coming,” says Miller.

The Minneapolis participants jumped at the chance to engage in conversations and connect with one another. They were also keen to explore The Working Mind tools (detailed on the Commission’s website), including the RAMP (Reflection, Action, Movement, and Practice) framework, which is designed to be used in any workplace.

The Working Mind program is built on research and experience, and it includes the most valuable tools possible. “It is so hard to be in the moment and realize that your mental health is being impacted. So, we provide an opportunity to look at different signs and symptoms of change as mental health worsens. And it’s that discussion, that recognition that’s often a light bulb moment in these programs.”

The course starts with a discussion of the stigma around mental illness. Participants then move on to talk specifically about how mental health should ideally be addressed in their workplace. The facilitator guides them along a continuum of understanding. Which behaviours are healthy? Which ones are reactive? When is a person actually injured? When do they become mentally ill? What actions can individuals and organizations take at every stage to tap into their strengths and work toward maintaining and restoring stability?

“I think everyone recognized that this was a safe space to add their voices to a quiet discussion of their stresses from work, family, the whole community — to share their experiences and say, ‘This is what is happening to me’ without fear of stigma,” says Miller. That in turn, led to a rich exploration of “what a truly resilient person looks like.”

After the course, the leaders of the host organization told Miller that they and their employees were grateful to have engaged in such an enriching exercise at a time when their community was under heightened stress.

What did Miller learn from the resiliency of people in Minneapolis? He says he is likely to broaden the scope of discussion in future workshops beyond what’s going on in the workplace to include what people are experiencing in their wider world, as this is a crucial part of each individual’s mental health picture. “I think it’s created a little more awareness, for me, about just how much the everyday stress of life can impact us. And when it’s on a different level, like they have experienced as a community [in Minneapolis], we as facilitators need to have a look at the background, at the community, to address those things as well.”

Miller’s experience in Minneapolis has reinforced for him how critical it is for everyone — no matter their profession or where they live — to be mindful of the elements of individual and collective experience that affect mental health. He plans to take that perspective forward in The Working Mind courses he’ll be facilitating in communities around the continent in the coming months. It comes down to recognizing that while unique and possibly even extreme circumstances affect individual mental health in different ways, we can all learn mental health truths from each other.

“No matter who the person is, or what the organization is, mental health is a universal topic. There isn’t one of us who is not impacted by the changes in our mental health, and it doesn’t matter your location on the globe.”

Resources, sources, and documents

Opening Minds 

PBS

CNN

The Working Mind

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The Age of Anxiety https://mentalhealthcommission.ca/catalyst/the-age-of-anxiety/ Thu, 21 May 2026 04:00:07 +0000 https://mentalhealthcommission.ca/?post_type=catalyst&p=98817 Young people in Canada today are struggling more than ever with anxiety and related mental health conditions. It’s time to get serious about helping them avoid a crisis.

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Isaiah Neil was a varsity football player at the University of Alberta when he began experiencing what he now knows, at age 24, was extreme symptoms of an anxiety disorder. “My body would start to feel numb. I’d have heart palpitations and racing thoughts that completely debilitated my focus,” says Neil, now a youth mental health leader. Eventually, he would have “over dozens of fainting episodes” due to anxiety. He had no idea that his fear of failure in the classroom and on the field was the source of his paralyzing anxiety. After seeking support from coaches, therapists, and doctors and failing to find solutions, he survived a suicide attempt that ended his 14-year football career. It was the beginning of a new career path. He shifted his focus to youth mental health advocacy, policy, and research.

Today, with ongoing support, he has learned to navigate anxiety and now often finds himself on stage in front of hundreds of youth. Using the ancient practice of storytelling, he’s now educating the next generation  on mental health and resilience and inspiring them. “Today is better than yesterday but today is never perfect,” he says. “I still struggle, but now I have shifted to a growth mindset. Adversity will always be part of life. The only way we fail is if we choose to give up.”

Isaiah Neil

That is an inspiring and hopeful message for the growing number of young people in Canada and around the world who, according to numerous studies and reports, experience levels of anxiety that affect their ability to enjoy normal activities and build healthy relationships. As Neil’s experience attests, untreated anxiety can lead to physical symptoms, phobias, depression, and avoidance behaviour that interfere with daily life and goals. Eventually, it can lead to suicidal ideation.

These are serious concerns that need to be urgently addressed, say mental health experts. Among the key findings of “A Generation at Risk: The State of Youth Mental Health in Canada,” a 2024 report commissioned by Bell’s Let’s Talk campaign, “Youth mental health is in serious decline, with increasing rates of anxiety, depression, and suicidal ideation. [It is] a disturbing trend that is particularly pronounced among marginalized groups such as 2SLGBTQI+ communities, newcomers, and Indigenous youth.”

The report was produced in collaboration with numerous organizations grappling with the impact of the trend, including Kids Help Phone, Jack.org, Aire Ouverte, the National Association of Friendship Centres, Youth Wellness Hubs, and the Youth in Mind Foundation.

Across the country, social service organizations, health-care providers, and families are trying to respond, often with limited resources, to the growing problems young people are facing.

“We absolutely see an increase in anxiety, and anxiety is almost always accompanied by other mental health issues, substance use, or other social determinants of health,” says Cynthia Peacock, director of mental health services at the Youth Services Bureau of Ottawa (YSB), which offers a variety of mental health services, including a walk-in clinic, youth and family counselling, and a 24/7 crisis line. Organizations like YSB are trying to stretch their services to meet the increased demand and find ways to prevent mental health issues from becoming critical. “Of course, call us when you’re in crisis. But we really want to see youth when there is just an inkling of discomfort. We don’t need to wait until things are at the pinnacle of distress. We can offer support before that.”

Why are increasing numbers of young people in Canada feeling so anxious?

While each individual faces unique issues, mental health experts point to several social and cultural trends fuelling emotional troubles for young people.

  • Increased isolation: The pandemic affected young people when they were learning critical skills such as how to socialize and make lasting friendships. “The isolation and uncertainty caused by lockdowns and social distancing measures exacerbated feelings of loneliness and anxiety,” write B.C. authors Matin Moradkhan and Saba Vatanpour, on behalf of the Let’s Talk Mental Health Foundation, in their UNICEF Canada article “Youth Mental Health Crisis: The Pandemic Fallout.”
  • Screen time versus in-person connection: “A Generation at Risk” reports that “youth with high personal screen time (6+ hours daily) are 2.35 times more likely to experience suicidal ideation (34% vs. 14%), alcohol dependency (12% vs. 6%), and cannabis dependency (18% vs. 6%). High screen time also correlates with a 2.5 times higher rate of self-rated anxiety (28% vs. 12%) and severe mental health symptoms.” Self-esteem and body image issues, especially for young women, may also result from spending time online looking at altered, unrealistic images of others.
  • Stigma and marginalization: Another concerning report finding was that over half of the youth who reached out for help with their mental health identified as 2SLGBTQI+. Additionally, 10% identified as Indigenous (vs. 5% of the overall population), and 6% identified as Black (vs. 4% of the overall population).
  • Young newcomers to Canada: Many reported feeling isolated, haunted by past trauma and racism, and reluctant to seek help for fear of being misunderstood.
  • Climate change anxiety: Fifty per cent of young people stated that climate change issues had had a negative effect on their mental health.
  • AI and anxiety: While AI can be useful when used ethically, it is already having a negative impact on mental health. Young people are particularly vulnerable. Lawsuits allege that young people were influenced to end their own lives through disturbing AI manipulation.

Trouble finding help

Youth who participated in the report spoke of the difficulty they had finding appropriate, affordable, and available services to address issues like debilitating anxiety. Wait times of four weeks or even months were unhelpful when their issues were acute. They also pointed to the problem of “frequent rotation of counsellors,” and students worried about where they would find affordable help after they graduated.

These concerns are among the main issues addressed by the Commission’s National Standard for Mental Health and Well-Being for Post-Secondary Students. The goal is to help post-secondary institutions provide the best possible mental health supports for their students, from positive classroom environments to reduced wait times for counselling.

Beyond post-secondary institutions, experts say that the mental health care system needs radical changes to effectively serve young people. Problems identified in “A Generation at Risk” include widespread government underfunding for mental health services and a lack of coordination among care providers.

To truly address youth mental health issues, say organizations like YSB and those behind the “A Generation at Risk” report, federal and provincial governments need to focus on increasing mental health literacy, prevention, and early intervention to help young people recognize problems and get the help they need before they are in crisis.

Cynthia Peacock

“We need to take a harm reduction approach to mental health,” says Peacock. “We can intervene early and stabilize the young person, so we avoid those peak heightened moments.”

Parents play a critical role in supporting their children as they deal with mental health issues. But finding the right help in a complex system can be confusing. Peacock points to initiatives like 1Call1Click, a collaboration between YSB and the Children’s Hospital of Eastern Ontario (CHEO), which simplify the process of connecting to services when people are in distress and navigating unfamiliar territory.

Self-help

When a young person is feeling lonely and overwhelmed by anxiety, whatever the source, it’s important to “speak out, tell someone,” says Neil. “You cannot attempt to solve any problem without first verbalizing it and describing its challenges. Speaking about your mental health      in itself can help alleviate some pressure.” Neil strongly believes in the power of storytelling and one-on-one connections to help break through isolation. He is the founder and speaker of Blue Shoes, a brand and message named for the story of the  coach who gave him a pair of blue sneakers that gave him hope at a time when he had no hope to live. It’s a powerful message that he hopes will remind people that “it only takes a moment to support someone struggling with their mental health.”

Mental health providers agree. “Make contact with others,” says Peacock. “It’s so easy for this online generation to isolate. Find your people — not on the computer.” Stop doomscrolling and cultivate friendships and activities offline. Remember, it’s okay to reach out for help with uncomfortable feelings. Don’t wait until there’s a crisis.

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Breaking the Cycle https://mentalhealthcommission.ca/catalyst/breaking-the-cycle/ Tue, 21 Oct 2025 04:00:15 +0000 https://mentalhealthcommission.ca/catalyst/hc// One student’s recovery from gambling addiction offers hope—and lessons—for a generation under financial and mental strain.

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At 19, Gavin Oregan had a gambling problem, even though he didn’t realize it until he was more than $30,000 in debt. He had money in the bank when he moved to Ottawa from Whitby, Ont., to attend school, and had always been responsible and disciplined about working part-time, earning, and saving money.

But away from home and surrounded by friends who gambled online, Oregan found the lure of betting sites on his phone irresistible. “It wasn’t even so much about the money,” he says, of his habitual sleep-depriving and wallet-draining sports gambling. As someone who struggles with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, or ADHD, Oregan says it was the high of winning that kept him hooked and “chasing that feeling.”

Now 21, and studying journalism at Algonquin College, Oregan says he was in a dark and isolated place back then. “None of my friends knew,” he says. “It ruined me.”

It was his father, who had access to his son’s banking information, who saw the shocking numbers and drove five hours to tell Gavin in person that he was in trouble. Then, Oregan accepted that he had an illness.

With help, Oregan overcame his addiction. “I am very fortunate,” he says now, to have a father willing to intervene and get his son back on course financially and emotionally. He says he wants to share his story in hopes that other young people in a similar situation will relate and reach out for help.

“Don’t be afraid to admit the problem and go talk to someone,” he advises. A therapist guided him to understand how his ADHD interfered with his decision-making moment to moment. He learned cognitive tools to get through the times when the craving for the adrenaline rush of gambling becomes overwhelming.

“I do get the urge. It lasts 20 seconds,” Oregan says. He found tools to use during those times. “The therapist said, ‘phone someone,’ do something else.’”

Gavin Oregan

Gavin Oregan says it wasn’t even about the money. “I was chasing that feeling.” Debt, gambling, and anxiety are weighing heavily on Gen Z—caught between economic pressures and digital temptations that older generations never faced.

Oregan has found the support he received from both his therapist and people he’s met at the weekly meeting of Gamblers Anonymous invaluable. He works part-time as a grocery store manager and, with the help of his family, has been able to pay off most of his debt. Now, he’s trying to maintain a more balanced lifestyle and tries to take breaks between working and worrying about having enough money. Keeping busy with school, work, and going to the gym has been useful, but Oregan says he realizes now, “you can’t be busy all the time.”

Financial traps

According to research done by Gaming, Gambling and Technology Use (GGTU), part of the Centre for Addiction and Mental Health (CAMH) education department, “Young people aged 10 to 24 years have higher rates of problem gambling than adults.”

Through social media, young people are more exposed to new forms of gambling content than older people. The “high” of winning may help alleviate anxiety and depression in the short term, but it can lead to mental health issues if not recognized as an addiction.

Studies have shown that males in particular are susceptible to advertising and peer pressure encouraging them to engage in sports betting of the kind that hooked Oregan.

The impact on mental health can be severe, according to research. One study showed that adolescents with gambling problems have also been found to have significantly higher rates of suicidal ideation and attempts than non-gamblers and social gamblers.

Interventions are crucial. As Oregan recognizes, he was lucky to have a family that confronted him about his problem and helped him get his debts paid and find effective interventions such as therapy and peer-group support.

It isn’t just easy access to online gambling that is getting more young adults into financial trouble. The increasing gap between wages and the cost of living, along with high youth unemployment rates and a lack of affordable housing, makes it easier than ever to get into debt.

As of 2025, approximately 56 percent of Canadian youth aged 18 to 29 are projected to carry some form of debt, revealing significant insights into the financial landscape of young Canadians, according to a 2024 Statistics Canada report by James Gauthier and Carter McCormack.

The cost of carrying debt has also increased for young people, according to Gauthier and McCormack. “Among those less than 35 years of age, the ratio of interest costs to disposable income rose 2.4 percentage points to 9.7 percent in 2023.

Essentially, young households spent 10 cents of every dollar earned towards servicing their debt, up from around seven cents in 2022.

Student loans, credit card debt, and personal loans are the most common types of debt among young people, according to the report. It is simply harder for young people to make ends meet today; anxiety goes along with economic uncertainty at any age, but it is particularly acute for young adults with less financial literacy, who are trying to build their lives on a solid financial foundation.

The findings echo the experiences and outlook of young people like Serena Dawson (not her real name), who is taking a gap year at age 19, as she tries to plan her future under circumstances vastly different than those of older generations, whose advice she finds outdated.

“By the time they reached their mid-20s, our parents and grandparents were settling into jobs that they would keep for decades, planning to buy homes, and starting families,” Dawson observes. “Now, young adults work part-time jobs well into their 20s and 30s, even if they have a post-secondary education. Buying a home is simply not possible for most with rising housing costs and day-to-day expenses taking over people’s entire budgets – so we continue to rent, without the opportunity to invest in property.”

Dawson also points out that economic uncertainty is causing many more young people to delay or forego parenthood altogether. Mental health can suffer when expectation and reality are so dramatically far apart.

Oregan agrees with Dawson – Gen Z is struggling. “A hundred per cent of young people are feeling the pinch,” he says of his friends and fellow students, who often work two or more part-time jobs while trying to pursue post-secondary education. “Everyone’s tired.”

Tuition, public transportation, and housing costs keep increasing, while wages do not. “I look at the cost of living and I don’t think I’ll ever own a home,” says Oregan.

Finding solutions

Helping young people navigate the tricky world of personal finance in difficult economic times will require action on many levels. Statistics Canada’s report suggests it’s going to take “financial education, accessible debt relief options, and supportive policies from both the government and financial institutions.”

Despite all the financial challenges young people face, Oregan says he tries not to be too pessimistic about the future and feels hopeful about pursuing his career goals in sports journalism. He supports efforts to lower housing and public transit costs for students. He also wishes that sports organizations would re-examine their gambling policies to keep fans from falling into dangerous betting habits.

Most of all, he’d like to see mental-health support and therapy become more accessible and affordable to people in his age group. “It really does help to open up and talk to someone.”

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Is Political Anxiety the New Normal? https://mentalhealthcommission.ca/catalyst/is-political-anxiety-the-new-normal/ Tue, 06 May 2025 12:38:18 +0000 https://mentalhealthcommission.ca/?post_type=catalyst&p=81036 Experts weigh in on the growing impact of political stress on mental health.

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Amanda Friesen, a professor of political science and Canada Research Chair of political psychology at the University of Western Ontario, recalls talking to a colleague recently who said he had been feeling a lot of stress with “everything that’s happening” in politics. “It occurred to me, ‘you’re a political psychologist. Is political anxiety a thing?’ And I thought, ‘yes, it is.’ And so, he and I had this conversation.” Since then, Friesen has been called upon as a national commentator on the subject, offering advice on how to cope with “political stress” and avoid “political information overload.”

In the wake of rapid, even shocking, political, and economic changes in the past several months, many psychology experts and mental health counsellors across Canada have reported an increase in the number of clients confiding anxieties brought on by contemplating how political and societal changes will affect them.

Amanda Friesen

Political psychologist Amanda Friesen shown here in Copenhagen during a research project: It’s about a balance between staying informed without the adverse effects.

The CBC recently reported a surge in “nervous googling” of terms such as “tariff” and “recession.” Many people say they are losing sleep worrying about what may come next – and feeling helpless in the face of all the turmoil. Some are turning off the news entirely to protect themselves from those difficult feelings. Others are addicted to “doom scrolling” and exposing themselves to hateful rhetoric on social media. Some are dealing with the emotional consequences of cutting off family members and friends over profoundly divergent opinions and beliefs. Depressive symptoms can be the fallout.

New world disorder

The trend is so pronounced, some mental health experts are wondering if “political anxiety disorder” should be made its own diagnosis, distinct from other forms of anxiety.

“There’s a lot of general anger and disbelief, I think,” says Stefanie Peachey, a registered social worker, accredited family mediator, and founder of Peachey Counselling and Family Support in Burlington and Oakville, Ontario. “[Clients are] saying to themselves, ‘What does this mean for me? I’m already so scared and anxious about finances, being able to afford my grocery bill or my rent. I don’t really understand tariffs, but I know that things might get more expensive for me. And how do I afford that?’”

Job loss, escalating prices on everything from groceries to building materials, and the lack of affordable housing – these issues are real and society-wide in their impact. Worrying is understandable, but if it leads to feelings of anger and helplessness that interfere with your life, finding ways to cope without shutting out reality is essential.

Stefanie Peachey

Social worker Stefanie Peachey: Worrying is understandable with all that’s going on. Therapists can help sort through complex issues and feelings.

“We need tools available for people because we don’t want them to disengage from democracy,” says Friesen. “I think it’s on journalists, social scientists, and political scientists to find ways to help people stay engaged and informed without adverse effects.”

Friesen suggests “setting up an intentional, formalized strategy” for consuming news. She employs one herself. “I do compartmentalize my news consumption. I never read the news before I go to sleep. I have a few subscriptions to news outlets where headlines of major and minor news stories get delivered daily or weekly. I read these stories and avoid jumping from link to link to link. I read and then stop and set it aside.”

Another way to deal with the uncertainties facing all of us is to be proactive in preparing for possible scenarios. “Let’s say that you work in an industry that one of the tariffs is going to impact. Reach out to your professional organization or your company and ask, ‘What’s going to be our response to this? Is there a way to prepare for it, remove some of that uncertainty?’” says Friesen. “We could imagine all sorts of scenarios that may or may not come to pass. Just get some concrete responses. Okay, this might happen or this or this, and here are some possible responses or plans we could make in response. It should make you feel better to know.”

Why tuning out completely isn’t the answer

Getting involved in your own community, or advocating for an issue you care deeply about, can go a long way to allaying feelings of helplessness. Focusing your time and energy on helping to further one cause is better than becoming paralyzed by feelings of emotional overload about every issue you read about, says Friesen. “Maybe there are some new environmental efforts in your community, or you have a friend who keeps bugging you to talk to the city about improving bike lanes. Do it. Find the things that you do have power over and focus on those,” Friesen advises.

Peachey echoes these suggestions. “As therapists, we’re often working with clients around uncomfortable thoughts and worries; all the ‘What ifs.’ For instance, for a client who is questioning their sexuality, and you worry, ‘What if I’m not accepted for this?’ We work around that fear and talk about all the supports that you may have in their life, and all the ways you can minimize some of the stress. It doesn’t mean that it’s not stressful or that the worry is wrong, but that the client’s thinking can be reframed. The same could be applied in this situation. How can we minimize the stress and focus on factors that may put us more at ease?”

In an article entitled, “How to cope with political and social uncertainty as a Canadian,” Peachey writes, “When we consciously shift our focus away from elements beyond our control and onto matters where our influence is meaningful, we not only conserve valuable mental energy but also gain a sense of empowerment.”

Peachey and Friesen agree that basic self-care – continuing to get enough sleep and exercise, eat well, moderate your news consumption, and practise mindfulness – just doing the things that bring you pleasure, connecting with friends and family who nurture and support you, are important now more than ever.

“It just doesn’t do any good to worry about politics every moment of the day. Live your life. Spend time with your people, enjoy the outdoors, immerse yourself in projects or activities that bring you joy. Burning out won’t help you be ready for future advocacy. This might be a marathon!” says Friesen.

Above all, says Peachey, remember that you are not alone. Many Canadians are feeling the same way and expressing their frustrations through concrete actions such as buying Canadian, or changing travel plans, for example.

If you need help, contact a therapist who can help you reframe your fears and anxieties and find positive ways to cope. As Peachey puts it, “Rather than dwelling on circumstances and behaviours that drain your emotional reserves, redirect your energy towards actions and initiatives that align with your cherished values. By doing so, you not only regain a sense of purpose and fulfillment but also nurture your mental well-being.”

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What is It Like Living with Schizophrenia? https://mentalhealthcommission.ca/catalyst/what-is-it-like-living-with-schizophrenia/ Tue, 21 May 2024 12:17:07 +0000 https://mentalhealthcommission.ca/?post_type=catalyst&p=70961 At 26, Gillian Corsiatto of Red Deer, Alta., is a published author – her debut novel, Duck Light, asks the serious question: “How can one break free of societal expectations?” More books and plays are underway. She’s also been a keen improv performer with Bullskit Comedy.

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At 26, Gillian Corsiatto of Red Deer, Alta., is a published author – her debut novel, Duck Light, asks the serious question: “How can one break free of societal expectations?” More books and plays are underway. She’s also been a keen improv performer with Bullskit Comedy.

Portrait: Gillian Corsiatto glasses and a red shirt standing in front of a palm tree.

Gillian Corsiatto

She has three part-time jobs: She is a community educator and youth group leader for the Red Deer branch of the Schizophrenia Society of Alberta and has been a guest speaker for The Mental Health Commission of Canada’s Headstrong youth program; she manages social media and recruitment for the Red Deer Royals marching band (in which she used to play the tuba); and most recently, she has taken a job wrapping and packaging caramels for a small, home-based business.

It sounds like a busy life, but Corsiatto understands the importance of managing stress. “It’s not like 9 to 5. I make sure I have enough time to rest and enough time for myself at home,” she says.

If you have never met a person who lives with schizophrenia – you just did.

Corsiatto is among more than 147,500 Canadians who deal with schizophrenia, a severe mental illness.

New standards

To ensure those living with the condition experience better outcomes and have the kind of hope for the future that Corsiatto does, The Mental Health Commission of Canada, in partnership with Ontario Shores Centre for Health Sciences, has released the Schizophrenia Quality Standards National Demonstration Project, a synthesis of the best medical evidence, with four demonstration health sites across Canada: Adult Forensic Mental Health Services, Manitoba; Hotel-Dieu Grace Health Care and Canadian Mental Health Association, Windsor, Ont.; Newfoundland and Labrador Health Services; and, Seven Oaks Tertiary, B.C. Health practitioners will receive education and training on best practices in therapy and medication treatments and helping patients and their families cope with the illness over the long term.

This will come as a welcome relief to many. The symptoms of schizophrenia tend to arise in adolescence or young adulthood, as they did for Corsiatto, who says she was about 13 when she first experienced delusions.

Early symptoms

“I thought I saw dead people,” she says. “I found it very hard to pay attention in school, and socially I was not really fitting in with the other kids because of my odd behaviour and the things I would talk about. That’s when I started hallucinating. I was very much in my own world at that point.” Corsiatto says she also engaged in self-harm to relieve her psychological turmoil.

Overcoming her psychosis and other symptoms wasn’t easy. At 14, she spent time in a psychiatric ward, where she received medication and was monitored for improvement in her symptoms. This helped eventually, she says, but the medication had side effects. “I was so tired all the time. And there was hunger. I ended up gaining a lot of weight.” She also remembers that some caregivers had the attitude that their patients needed to be disciplined and corrected.

“We were treated as though we were bad kids, not sick kids. Like it was all behaviour problems, causing trouble. I’m an adult now and can stand up for myself, but I wish I would have said something or stood up because I really felt like I wasn’t being treated very well.”

Corsiatto’s symptoms did improve significantly though, with therapy and medication. Throughout most of high school, she did not have hallucinations and was able to manage her studies and extra-curricular activities. She even went off her medication for a time, but that did not last. After graduating high school, she went to Red Deer College (now Polytechnic), majoring in music. “School was stressful. I didn’t complete the program,” she says. Along with medication she had previously been given for anxiety, she resumed taking medication for psychosis. This was a hard period, says Corsiatto. “I just coped with it.”

The next chapter

Gradually, though, the medication and therapy again helped and for the past four years, Corsiatto has been able to build a life she enjoys, with a desire to help other young people with severe mental illness and a lot of hope for the future. “I really want to make writing a career,” she says, as she works on the sequel to Duck Light.

“I know that there’s hope for the future, and I know that I will always deal with this illness and this schizophrenia, but I also know that I can manage it, and I am more than my schizophrenia, and if things do get bad, I know what to do about it.”

For example, she says hallucinations and delusions are still something she experiences, “but to a much lesser extent than I used to,” Corsiatto says. “Several factors impact whether or not I recognize them as such. Medication is definitely a big part, but I also credit life experience. I have learned to gauge the reactions of others or, if I’m with someone I trust, asking them what they are experiencing in that moment. If I am out in public and experiencing a hallucination and no one else around me seems to notice or react to it, that’s a good indicator to me that it’s a hallucination. Things that will make it harder to decipher whether real or not are stress, lack of sleep, or if I am alone.”

She sees ways the mental health system can improve its treatment of young people with schizophrenia, and notes that a significant number of people with mental illness also struggle with substance use issues, finding suitable housing, and waiting lists for treatment. “It’s case by case. I’m on a waiting list for an autism assessment, but I feel that if I go to the hospital, I can get help pretty fast. If I need an emergency appointment with my psychiatrist, I can do that.”

Individual experiences

Corsiatto wants people to know that no two people with schizophrenia experience it the same way. If you want to know what someone is going through, “talk to the individual, don’t generalize,” she says.

For young people going through treatment for schizophrenia, she says, “It’s not all about the medications and the illness. It’s really important to focus on what makes you happy. What do you like to do? What are you proud of? What would you like to achieve?”

Answering these questions for herself has made Corsiatto feel like she’s “living the dream.”

Each time she speaks publicly, she feels she’s dispelling misconceptions. “I love changing people’s mindsets about what they think schizophrenia is. ‘This is how someone with schizophrenia is going to act.’ And then I show up. And they think this person is pretty normal. So, I love that. And changing the way people think about interacting with schizophrenia and people with schizophrenia. They can just talk to me like I’m a normal person – because I am.”

Resource: Where to Get Care – A Guide to Navigating Public and Private Mental Health Services in Canada.

Resource: Addressing stigma in health care.

Author:

Moira Farr

An award-winning journalist, author, and instructor, with degrees from Ryerson and the University of Toronto. Her writing has appeared in The Walrus, Canadian Geographic, Chatelaine, The Globe and Mail and more, covering topics like the environment, mental health, and gender issues. When she’s not teaching or editing, Moira freelances as a writer, having also served as a faculty editor in the Literary Journalism Program at The Banff Centre for the Arts.

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DIY Obits https://mentalhealthcommission.ca/catalyst/diy-obits/ Fri, 29 Sep 2023 19:13:37 +0000 https://mentalhealthcommission.ca/?post_type=catalyst&p=66216 Writing your end-of-life story has therapeutic effects. The art of getting to the end.

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Writing your end-of-life story has therapeutic effects. The art of getting to the end.

The obituary — a written announcement of a person’s death, including biographical details — has been with us for centuries.

The sombre, even forbidding word, from the medieval Latin obituarius, was first used in 1703, according to the Merriam-Webster dictionary. Over the years since, it has become common practice for a family member or friend to write such a notice for a loved one who has died. While never a happy task or one to be taken lightly, it has become so customary that the best obituaries are collected in books. Besides that the funeral industry now provides how-to advice and templates, news organizations pre-write them for the famous, ghostwriters will write one for you — and increasing numbers of people are writing their own.

Some irreverent, self-written obituaries, after being appreciated by complete strangers for their refreshing candour about personal failings, family conflict, and mental illness, have gone viral. One of them, from Angus Macdonald of Glace Bay, Nova Scotia, is also now listed for its poignancy and humour under “Funny Obituaries” on Legacy.com. “I think I was a pretty nice guy, despite being a former punk and despite what some people would say about me,” he recounted in the obituary he wrote before his death at age 67 in 2016. “What did they know about me anyway? I loved my family and cared for them through good times and bad; I did my best.”

As they face death, some autobiographical scribes are motivated by a wish to set the record straight, settle scores, or comfort those left behind, with honesty, humour, and courage. They may also see it as an opportunity to reflect on the entirety of their lives — the triumphs and accomplishments, failings and regrets, lessons learned, and in the mind of the writer at least, a chance to leave behind words of wisdom worth preserving. Those who know they are close to the end may gain valuable perspective from writing authentically about their lives and, in the process, find a way to accept and be at peace with the inevitable.

An examined life
Now, therapists, counsellors, and writing coaches are seeing the mental health benefits of asking clients to write their own obituary, regardless of age or how much life they have left.

While some might find the idea morbid, it’s gaining popularity as a therapeutic exercise in self-examination and as a way to help clarify important issues that we all face as we go through life.

We may have a hard time facing our own mortality, but thinking about what we’d want in our obituary when we die, experts say, might lead to a better, happier, and more meaningful and productive life. It’s worth noting that obire, the Latin root word of “obituary,” means “go toward” or “go to meet.”

“Sometimes people will do this exercise and stop and look at their lives and say, ‘I’m actually living a life that is completely opposite to what I want to be remembered for,’” says Talia Akerman, a licensed mental health counsellor working with Humantold, a group practice based in New York City. Most of Akerman’s clients are in their early 20s, dealing with depression, anxiety, and trauma and searching for answers to life’s big questions as they try to heal from painful experiences and build their adult lives.

In the context of existential therapy, based largely on ideas developed by renowned psychiatrist Viktor Frankl in the early 20th century, writing an obituary for yourself is a means of exploring how to find genuine, self-determined meaning and purpose. “It forces you to hold up a mirror to your life, your actions, your values, the people around you,” says Akerman. “It gives you a very intense moment to say, ‘This is not what I want for myself. Let me change that.’ And then, I’ll ask, ‘What are the common themes in this obituary? If you need to make a change, how do you go about that?’” On the other hand, she says, a person might find they are more on track than they realized after writing down an account of their life.

For someone dealing with depression, it’s an opportunity to work with a therapist on boosting self-esteem, reconnecting with the good, and finding hope for the future. “It’s reminding them of the strengths they have, and it is very beneficial. Other times with depression, or whatever mental health issue you might be experiencing, it’s a little harder, and that person might not be at the point where they’re ready to see that,” says Akerman. “This is where I think a good therapist comes into play. You need to be the person instilling hope in somebody before they’re ready to metaphorically grab the hope from your hands and hold it for themselves.”

It may also help a person to go back to the obituary in later months or years to see how their lives have changed, for better or for worse, and reflect again on what path they really want to take. “I will have them keep it somewhere, and if they don’t want to keep it because it’s a little too jarring, I’ll keep it somewhere safe and private for them, and we can revisit that,” says Akerman. “They can ask themselves, ‘Have I made the changes I want, or am I in the same place? And if I’m in the same place, why am I here?’”

Changes in direction
During the pandemic, so many people were forced to “pivot” in their choices of employment or deal with all kinds of losses that in some cases led to mental health crises, Akerman says, which made obituary writing an even more relevant exercise for her clients.

“I think this tool was really helpful during COVID. People could say, ‘I can’t control everything on a social level, but I can look at what I want to do with my life, look at my values, and what I care about and figure out, do I need to change anything professionally or relationally?”

Whether young or old, close to or far from death, reflecting on the lives we’ve led, are now living, or will lead clearly has benefits — from finding peace to changing directions to simply appreciating who and where we are and what we’ve accomplished or would still like to before the end.


Resource: Sharing Your Story Safely

Related reading:

is the author of After Daniel: A Suicide Survivor’s Tale. She teaches in the journalism program at Algonquin College in Ottawa.

Moira Farr

An award-winning journalist, author, and instructor, with degrees from Ryerson and the University of Toronto. Her writing has appeared in The Walrus, Canadian Geographic, Chatelaine, The Globe and Mail and more, covering topics like the environment, mental health, and gender issues. When she’s not teaching or editing, Moira freelances as a writer, having also served as a faculty editor in the Literary Journalism Program at The Banff Centre for the Arts.

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How To Break Up With Your Therapist https://mentalhealthcommission.ca/catalyst/how-to-break-up-with-your-therapist/ Tue, 11 Jul 2023 19:05:20 +0000 https://mentalhealthcommission.ca/?post_type=catalyst&p=63021 If it’s just not working, then don’t ghost. Name your needs.

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If it’s just not working, then don’t ghost. Name your needs.

In a famous episode of the popular TV series Curb Your Enthusiasm, Larry David, the curmudgeonly main “character” (said to be an exaggerated version of himself), decides he must end therapy after seeing his middle-aged psychiatrist at the beach in a thong. When he announces his intention to leave, the psychiatrist seems surprised by the decision and keeps pressing Larry to tell him why it’s over. Larry keeps hedging, then ungracefully bolts.

In reality, the question of why and how to end therapy — to “break up” with your therapist — is for most more complicated than this scenario suggests. Ideally, the decision to move on is mutual, anticipated, and planned. If your therapist is a good fit, and you’ve developed a trusting relationship, you’ll both probably know when it makes sense to do so. It’s also likely that you’ll be able to discuss it openly: you’re feeling better; you’ve worked together toward gaining insights on the challenges that brought you into therapy, you’ve grappled with grieving, worked to improve or let go of toxic relationships, begun to heal from trauma, etc. Now, you both sense that you have the tools and understanding to deal with situations that trigger anxiety or other issues. You’ve grown, your therapist has genuinely helped you, and with respect and goodwill on both sides, the time to part has come.

But what if you and your therapist are not such a good fit? They’re just not “getting” you, and it seems unlikely that you’ll feel better any time soon. While the most frequent advice is to “shop around,” in practice it can be hard to tell your story — in all its intimate, painful details — multiple times to different strangers. That kind of reluctance can tempt you to stick with the therapist you’ve been working with, despite your reservations.

At this point, it’s all too easy to rationalize your way back into familiar territory. Maybe you’re relying on community or employee services, where choices are more affordable. Maybe you have trouble asserting yourself. Maybe you don’t want to say something that might hurt your therapist’s feelings or invite some kind of judgment. While each of these reasons might be valid, continuing on when you’re not fully invested will be an unfortunate waste of time for you both.

Take “Jean,” for instance, a woman in her 60s who sought therapy when she found herself stuck getting over the death of a pet. Her online therapist, a woman in her 30s, seemed to pigeonhole Jean as a lonely empty nester who needed to get out more. “Yet I’m not lonely,” says Jean, a creative spirit who is happily married, sees her grown children often, and enjoys a wide circle of friends. “She was very nice, but she was off about who I am.” Jean felt stereotyped, but being conflict-avoidant, didn’t know how to convey it. She ended up leaving after completing several sessions and didn’t seek out another therapist. Eventually, she moved past her grief on her own, without the external help and insight she had been looking for. Jean still wonders if, with the right therapist, the process might not have taken so long or been so painful.

So, though it may not be easy, if you’re dissatisfied for any reason, you owe it to yourself and your therapist to communicate your feelings and end the therapeutic relationship.

Starting well
Of course, incompatibility can be avoided by finding a good fit from the beginning. Many therapists detail their specialties and training in online biographies, which makes it easier to narrow the field and choose someone with expertise in what you’re experiencing — someone who has a good chance of understanding and appreciating who you are and what you need.

According to Lindsey Thomson, a registered psychotherapist based in Kanata, Ontario, and public affairs director for the Canadian Counselling and Psychotherapy Association, with 13,000 members across the country, as you go through this process “it’s important to be truthful about your preferences. Let’s say you’re a woman who wants to work on your experience of a past trauma that makes you uncomfortable talking with a man. Or maybe you’re part of a marginalized community and feel more comfortable with someone who shares the same cultural background. If you have preferences like that,” she says, “you need to find someone who meets them.” Many therapists, including Thomson, offer a 30-minute complimentary session to help potential clients test the waters and see if the fit is good for both people.

Also essential is understanding what type of therapy the counsellor is offering and what their overall philosophy is. As Thomson points out, studies suggest that what matters most is the dynamic between client and therapist. “This is a working relationship we’re dealing with,” she says, “you know, human to human. If something comes up that you don’t agree with, or if you don’t like the way the therapist has framed something — or you were challenged, and you weren’t ready for it — bring that up. It’s really important. Yes, it can be uncomfortable. But just know that all therapists want to know what’s going on for you in that process.”

Definitely don’t “ghost”!
While therapeutic situations differ, says Thomson, clients will average between 12 and 20 sessions, particularly with goal-oriented models like cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT).

“Let’s say I’m a client in therapy with generalized anxiety, and I’ve had 10 sessions. I’ve noticed a decrease because I’ve been working on some behaviour changes to help reduce it. At that point, the therapist can do a progress check on my initial goals and see how I’ve been doing with practising those skills — whether it’s behaviour changes, regulating emotions, or challenging an automatic negative thought to let it go and move on. Do I feel confident that I can maintain that without the therapist’s support?” For the therapist in this situation, says Thomson, rather than a complete termination, “maybe we switch the frequency of sessions. I typically see clients every two weeks. So why don’t we try seeing each other once a month for what we call maintenance-type therapy? If the skill implementation isn’t going so well, then we can go back to where we left off.”

At every stage of the process, the key to success is being comfortable communicating your feelings. You’re there to gain insight and develop the skills to grow, heal, and cope. Your therapist should be in your corner all the way.

If they do or say something truly unprofessional, and the organization they are registered with has a code of ethics and disciplinary measures, you can make a complaint. Check the laws and regulations in your province or territory to determine how to proceed in this kind of situation.

Resource: Fact Sheet: Common Mental Health Myths and Misconceptions.

Further reading: Weaving Through the Challenges: The ABCs of Finding an ACB Therapist

Author: is the author of After Daniel: A Suicide Survivor’s Tale. She teaches in the journalism program at Algonquin College in Ottawa.

Moira Farr

An award-winning journalist, author, and instructor, with degrees from Ryerson and the University of Toronto. Her writing has appeared in The Walrus, Canadian Geographic, Chatelaine, The Globe and Mail and more, covering topics like the environment, mental health, and gender issues. When she’s not teaching or editing, Moira freelances as a writer, having also served as a faculty editor in the Literary Journalism Program at The Banff Centre for the Arts.

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Newcomers Forward https://mentalhealthcommission.ca/catalyst/newcomers-forward/ Tue, 27 Jun 2023 18:49:47 +0000 https://mentalhealthcommission.ca/?post_type=catalyst&p=62636 The Future Ready Initiative’s community-helping-community model supports people to strive and thrive.

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The Future Ready Initiative’s community-helping-community model supports people to strive and thrive.

Amina (not her real name), a young mother of four, faced serious challenges when she separated from her husband. Although she had lived in Canada for more than 10 years, she was isolated in her home, and the fear and stress of suddenly finding herself on her own were overwhelming. She urgently needed psychological counselling and help with learning English, doing her banking, buying groceries, and navigating the city’s public transport. “It is such a humbling and inspiring story,” says Ramzia Ashrafi, clinical practice team lead for Future Ready Initiative (FRI), which has supported hundreds newcomers across Canada since its inception two years ago.

The Future Ready team connected Amina with mentors, both professionals and volunteers (also called “family navigators”) who recognized her situation as an emergency and fast-tracked the help she needed. Within weeks, she had received counselling from a practitioner who specializes in helping immigrants and refugees. “After eight or nine months she was very comfortable expressing herself in English, and with no additional support, found a house and a job that allowed her to financially sustain herself and her children,” says Ashrafi.

Amina’s is one of many success stories to emerge from the initiative, which has multiple programs targeting youth, families, and seniors in need of support with mental health, education, settlement, and employment. “It’s the community helping the community build resiliency,” says Aleem Punja, national operations officer at Future Ready Initiative, whose stated core values are “individual agency, dignity, and equity.”

Not surprisingly, the number of people in need of their support has increased significantly since the pandemic hit three years ago.

 “It has not been easy,” says Punja, “but we are doing our best.” FRI is a new national organization with 24 staff members and 500 community volunteers across Canada, yet it is able to provide the range of support services so many need.

The positive energy generated by all those involved in FRI is reflected in the virtual exhibition, Journey Upstream, a moving showcase of art, photography, music, spoken word poetry, graphics, and testimonials illustrating the experiences, hopes, and dreams of those new to Canada looking to connect with others. According to the exhibition’s description, it “aims to tell the story, via different and unique perspectives, of how the Future Ready Initiative fosters hope and builds resilience, and equips families and individuals with resources that enable them to confidently overcome challenges and thrive.” The priority given to mental health support is sharply illustrated in one of the photographs: a chain-link fence adorned with three simple black and white signs — YOU MATTER, YOU ARE NOT ALONE, DON’T GIVE UP.

The multidisciplinary Future Ready Initiative mental health case management team includes social workers, nurses, and psychotherapists specially trained in crucial areas such as suicide prevention, addiction, grief, and post-traumatic stress disorder. For those fleeing war and persecution, there is a particular need to offer care “in a trauma-informed way,” says Punja. That means building partnerships with numerous sister organizations, such as ABRAR Trauma and Mental Health, that can offer timely support, virtually or in person. Whether it’s the loss of loved ones to COVID-19, pandemic-related mental and physical health issues, or disruption to income and education due to the disease, war, settlement, or political upheaval — all have had a massive social impact on individuals and families.

For some, reaching out for help still carries a stigma, says Punja. Admitting you are having trouble finding a job, paying bills, or feeding your family is stressful enough, but dealt with in isolation such problems can seem impossible to overcome. Making it easier for people to ask for and receive help means connecting with them in a way that lets them see how everyone has challenges and everyone benefits from helping others. “Maybe a cousin helps you with English, or a neighbour does your taxes,” he says. Changing the language and the dynamics between the helped and the helpers also makes the process of helping someone get back on their feet less stigmatizing. “We don’t talk about ‘poverty’ but rather ‘vulnerability.’”

It also helps to focus on goals: an individual or family may be in a tough place now, but by helping them map out a path to better times, Future Ready emphasizes people’s agency and resilience as they find their own best strategies for success.

As well, helping others be “future-ready” means focusing on community connections as vital to mental health (in addition to direct interventions like counselling and coaching). Events that bring people together, such as musical performances, art exhibitions, sports, and those tailored especially for youth, families, or seniors have been successful in integrating newcomers and helping them stay positive and optimistic despite challenges and obstacles.

FRI’s Impact Report 2022 notes a number of positive milestones for the organization. “Since its inception in 2021, FRI delivered holistic and tailored support in the areas of family mentorship, future of work, mental health, settlement excellence, and youth mentorship to over 727 individuals.” It provided 560 hours of service to people with mental health risks. This included helping individuals on long waiting lists find care from a mental health or primary care doctor and supporting family members who were worried about the mental health of a loved one. Future Ready Initiative also assisted more than 100 family navigators and mentors “to competently manage sensitive situations while avoiding burnout.”

Ali Masroor Bigzad, who emigrated with his family from Afghanistan in September 2021 and currently lives in Sherbrooke, called his submission to the Journey Upstream exhibition “Spark of Hope.” It was FRI that gave him that hope. “Upon our arrival, the FRI officer came to our place and welcomed us on behalf of the community leadership and asked if we needed anything. We were all so happy that these institutions were here, reigniting that hope in us for a better future. The staff supported our settlement in different ways. The FRI member gave me advice about the different education pathways I could take. Without him, it would have been difficult for me to seek out the right path to start my educational journey.”

FRI staff, family navigators, and mentors have every intention of carrying on with the initiative to provide hope and real service to help every member of the community thrive on their journeys.

Author: is the author of After Daniel: A Suicide Survivor’s Tale. She teaches in the journalism program at Algonquin College in Ottawa.

Moira Farr

An award-winning journalist, author, and instructor, with degrees from Ryerson and the University of Toronto. Her writing has appeared in The Walrus, Canadian Geographic, Chatelaine, The Globe and Mail and more, covering topics like the environment, mental health, and gender issues. When she’s not teaching or editing, Moira freelances as a writer, having also served as a faculty editor in the Literary Journalism Program at The Banff Centre for the Arts.

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May your days be merry and bright as possible https://mentalhealthcommission.ca/catalyst/may-your-days-be-merry-and-bright-as-possible/ Mon, 12 Dec 2022 21:13:30 +0000 https://mentalhealthcommission.ca/?post_type=catalyst&p=52570 Living with a mood disorder means deliberately seeking out small sparks of joy. On moving through cycles of moping, coping, and hoping during the holiday season.

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This story is the second in the Mental Health for the Holidays series. While end-of-year celebrations can be a time of joy — they can also trigger feelings of stress and loss. Read the collection to learn how others were able to meet those challenges.

I often hear people say how much they hate New Year’s Eve. But I love it, for one simple reason: it’s not Christmas. The relief! On New Year’s Eve, you have options if you want to glam up for a glittering soiree to pop champagne corks, wear festive hats, and sway with strangers to Auld Lang Syne. If you’d rather stay home in your pajamas, binge-watch TV, and head to bed early, no one will judge you for it.

Christmas, though, is a different crock of mulled wine — the expectations are many, as are the possibilities for conflict and emotional pain. I wouldn’t say I anticipate it as I would a root canal, but a cleaning or small filling wouldn’t be far off. While it has to be done, as it’s happening, oh how I wish the slightly painful, tedious process was over.

Why, you ask? The truth is, I actually have many fond and happy memories of Christmas from childhood. I had secular parents who emphasized the holiday, not the religion. Yet there were always echoes of its “true meaning”: goodwill to all, peace on Earth, mercy mild, giving rather than receiving.

Adult life was where the difficulties began. One was being diagnosed with dysthymia (now called persistent depressive disorder or PDD) – its symptoms include low mood, hopelessness, worry, guilt, and a host of other challenges.

Then, when I was 21, my 58-year-old mother had a stroke, a catastrophic event she struggled with (having both physical and mental effects) for more than a decade until the day she died. When that happened, my sister and I worried about how our father would cope after 46 years of marriage. That first Christmas without her was tough on us all, but our normally reclusive and unemotional father was surprisingly (to us) resilient. While he cried one night after dinner — only the second time I’d ever seen him do so, besides the day after my mother died two months earlier — we gave each other what comfort we could and weathered the season, despite how heartbreaking it was and how unfestive we felt.

A week later, we managed to convince him to attend his politician neighbour’s annual New Year’s Day levee. Of course, he grumbled — it was probably the first time he’d been to such an event in decades — but to our surprise, he mingled gracefully. Every time I looked around, he was making small talk with a different cluster of people. “He’s working the room,” I remember telling my sister as we stood beside a potted plant away from the madding crowd. I know that at least one of the older people he spoke to had also recently lost a spouse. It was touching to see them talking.

At home later, when we remarked on how many people he’d managed to speak to, he let us in on his philosophy of party etiquette. “Get in and get out,” he said. A few minutes tops with each person, then move on. “No one wants to hear your life story.” He did have a point.

ornamental candy cane

When you live with a mood disorder, especially PDD, what should make you happy – or at least cheerful – can have the opposite effect. Years of living with it and successful treatment (for which I’m grateful) have given me insight, coping tools, and perspective. I know what will pull me down — so I avoid malls, pass on Christmas movies, mute Christmas TV ads, plan realistically, and pace myself when it comes to socializing.

But you can’t avoid everything. An old carol on the radio as I’m anxiously wrapping gifts I hope someone will like can send me into a tailspin of brooding about all that’s wrong with the season and the world. People like me are the Eeyores and Charlie Browns of the world (Charles M. Schulz suffered from depression) — we’ll find the worm in the apple, or the mince tart, just give us time. We can’t help dwelling on the fact that most people don’t live in a Norman Rockwell painting. We think of those without family or those with families so complicated that the stresses of holiday planning are hard to justify. This year in particular, lots of people will be struggling with holiday expenses. And let’s not forget all those who don’t celebrate Christmas, and how they must endure a world awash in red and green and ho-ho-hoing Santas for two months after Halloween. Millions of turkeys raised for mass slaughter, what fun the season is for them. And mountains of shiny unrecyclable wrapping paper clogging up landfills.

You can see where PDD takes me. Nowhere good.

I take deep breaths and remind myself that, while fleeting feelings of sadness are not unhealthy, mulling endlessly on the world’s ills won’t change them. Appreciating your good fortune is one thing, but feeling guilt over having enough to eat, a loving family and friends, and a warm place to live, will not help those who don’t have them. Comfort and joy don’t just happen. You have to create them, and that requires generosity of spirit (as Scrooge famously learned) instead of going so far inward you can’t see beyond your own navel.

Ironically, I now share my life with someone who loves Christmas. He doesn’t build Christmas villages, bake fancy cakes and cookies months in advance, or wear ugly home-knitted sweaters. But he owns a sizable tree-ornament collection, insists on a live tree, and hangs garlands of outdoor lights without fail — humming tunes and thinking of his adult children and grandchildren as he does so.

We have turned my aversion to Christmas into a shared joke. Randomly, we’ll sing Holly Jolly Christmas to each other with great enthusiasm while pretending to sob uncontrollably. Maybe you have to be there to appreciate the dark humour, but trust me, it turns my tears into laughter and lifts me out of the dumps every time.

Another depressive friend copes by focusing on the pagan origins of Christmas — the lit tree, a hopeful sign of life in the dark winter, keeping evil spirits away. All the greenery decking the halls are laden with symbolism: the wreath is a circle of life; mistletoe, a tribute to love and reconciliation.

I’m sure my father didn’t always love Christmas after my mother died. He lived another 13 years, grieving with quiet dignity and moving on to a life of his own, which I believe he enjoyed. When he was diagnosed with lung cancer at age 86, we scrambled to make sure he wasn’t alone. We had a modest Christmas together, accommodating his fatigue from radiation treatments and the cancer itself. He had little appetite and mostly slept. While we didn’t know he would die just six weeks later, we knew it would likely be our last Christmas with him.

After his death, as we cleared out his house, I found several Christmas gifts with my name on them under his bed. Obviously, he’d forgotten to put them under the tree. One was a silver pen carved in a swirling Celtic pattern. Of course, it caused heartache, but I will always treasure it. More than that, I treasure the thought of my father going out, despite the ravages of cancer, and shopping for thoughtful gifts to give his daughters.

Comfort and joy. He tried right to the end to provide them. I often remind myself of that. If he could do it, so can I.

Author: , is the author of After Daniel: A Suicide Survivor’s Tale. She teaches in the journalism programs at Carleton University and Algonquin College in Ottawa.
More resources to support your well-being over the holidays:
How to Give Back (or Reach Out) This Holiday Season (Mental Health Commission of Canada)
Five Ways to Protect Your Mental Health This Holiday (Canadian Mental Health Association)

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Three Easy Digits We’ll All Soon Know https://mentalhealthcommission.ca/catalyst/three-easy-digits-well-all-soon-know/ Tue, 06 Sep 2022 20:03:30 +0000 https://mentalhealthcommission.ca/?post_type=catalyst&p=48732 A national suicide prevention number – to launch in November 2023 – will bring 24-7 support to everyone.

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A national suicide prevention number – to launch in November 2023 – will bring 24-7 support to everyone

You’re a single mother in downtown Ottawa, off work due to COVID and distressed that you can’t cover the costs of rent and feeding your family. You’re an Indigenous teenager in northern Alberta trying to escape an abusive relationship. You’re a middle-aged man in New Brunswick who hasn’t told anyone how deep your depression is, and you feel like you can’t fight your suicidal urges anymore. You’re a refugee in small-town Ontario whose first language is not English, and you are experiencing frightening flashbacks to traumatic experiences of war. You’re a nurse in Vancouver, demoralized by the anti-vaccine protestors shouting at you as you go to work, where staffing shortages have brought you and your mental health to the breaking point.

Who do you call?

If you’re lucky, you’ll find the compassionate ear of a well-trained helpline counsellor in your community, who’ll listen as you tell your story, determine your level of suicide risk, de-escalate your stress, and connect you with the resources you need to get through this challenging moment in your life and set you on the way to long-term solutions and better times.

Still, in your state of mind you may not know where to turn. You might feel ashamed or embarrassed to admit you need help; or worse, you could be having suicidal thoughts. You might not feel up to searching for a 1-800 number — maybe you don’t have easy access to the internet and don’t know what supports are out there.

But what if we had a national three-digit suicide emergency helpline that everyone knew as well as they know 911?

That idea has been under serious study and development in Canada for several years, with enthusiastic support among suicide prevention experts, mental health professionals, and politicians at every level of government. Countries like the Netherlands and the United States have implemented a three-digit number, and in Canada a suicide hotline – 9-8-8 – will be accessible in all parts of Canada by the end of 2023.

According to Statistics Canada, about 11 people a day — 4,000 a year — take their own lives in this country. While the causes and circumstances vary, each loss is a tragedy that, for a host of unique and complex reasons, wasn’t prevented.

As the pandemic has unfolded, distress centres throughout Canada have been reporting higher numbers of people calling for help, particularly around addiction, job loss, the effects of inflation on the cost of living, and food insecurity. For those in the prevention field, a national suicide emergency number makes more sense than ever.

“The concept is widely accepted,” said Sean Krausert, executive director of the Canadian Association for Suicide Prevention (CASP). Based in Canmore, Alberta, Krausert was among many in the suicide prevention field in Canada (and internationally) consulted by the authors of Considerations for Implementing a Three-Digit Suicide Prevention Number in Canada, a 2021 MHCC policy brief that reviewed relevant literature and information.

“It’s more the logistical issues of putting this in place that will take time,” he said. “There needs to be a great degree of awareness in the public and strong funding to create a national service.”

Given Canada’s vastness and diversity, launching and maintaining a three-digit suicide prevention number is a complex task. Not only must such a service be built on the principles of equity and cultural inclusion, but it must also have a consistent technological infrastructure.

For example, for 9-8-8 to function from coast to coast to coast, 10-digit dialing needs to be in place where 7-digit dialing is still the norm, such as in Newfoundland, Labrador, northern Ontario, and Yellowknife. The Canadian Radio-Television and Telecommunications Commission (CRTC) says it may take until November 2023 to make the transition to 10-digit dialing in those locations. When the 9-8-8 system is up and running, all calls and texts to 9-8-8 will be directed to a mental health crisis or suicide prevention service, free of charge.

Additionally, access to well-trained counsellors must be made available 24-7 in every region of the country to serve diverse needs and to ensure that the help people require can be provided — whether they live in an urban centre or remote area, are young or old, speak English, French, or another language, or suffer from addiction, abuse, or mental illness. That means having one number for anyone in a suicidal crisis to connect to, no matter their walk of life, or their circumstances.

“Like a lot of guys, I always thought that whatever I had to deal with in my life, I would deal with it alone,” said Érick Légaré, in a 2019 video for the Association québécoise de prévention du suicide. Légaré, now 50, attempted suicide at age 45 and is grateful for the help he found when he was struggling. Today he has an urgent message for those who are feeling suicidal: “If you need help, know that it’s out there. You just need to let go and accept it. Talk to someone.”

Clearly, a national suicide helpline is a valuable addition to the supports already in place at the local and regional levels in Canada. “Whatever service it is, it is essential to provide immediate mental health supports 24 hours a day to the people in distress who call in,” said Andrea Poncia from Ottawa’s Community Suicide Prevention Network, who also pointed out that, for a national phone line to be effective, “funding has to be scaled up and maintained long term.”

Leslie Scott, manager of media and communications with the Distress Centres of Ottawa and Region, agrees that a national three-digit suicide emergency phone service is a good idea, and, once implemented, could take pressure off local non-profit distress centres.

“COVID has been intense,” said Scott, with more calls to the service than ever before. To succeed, a national service will need a “huge marketing campaign” to make sure people know it exists and understand what it provides. Like Poncia, Scott believes funding is essential for training those answering the phones, so they’re competent in best practices for helping a person in a suicidal crisis. Phone counsellors at distress centres in Canada now receive Applied Suicide Intervention Skills Training (ASIST), which enables them to offer “suicide first aid” to anyone who needs such support. National phone line counsellors will also need that, along with solid knowledge of what services are available to whoever calls, wherever they may be. That will enable them to triage and direct people to the appropriate help, both short and long term. An Indigenous teenager in Alberta will need something different than a middle-aged man in New Brunswick, an elderly farmer in rural Ontario, or a recent refugee of war with PTSD whose first language is not English.

“You need people who know how to actively listen,” said Scott. You have to be able to gauge a person’s mood, get into the nitty gritty with them. You need to be able to get to the heart of their story.”

The creation of a national three-digit suicide emergency hotline also serves another critical function: reducing the sense of stigma people may feel about asking for help or admitting they have a mental health concern. Scott notes that those taking the first step toward getting support may internalize stigmatizing language and perspectives.

“Unfortunately, some people still think that if they call for help, they’ll be taken away to the ‘loony bin.’ But of course, that is not the case,” said Scott. Knowing that there’s a phone number that anyone in Canada can use, any time, should contribute to the awareness that every human being goes through struggles, help is available, and you are not alone.

Karen Letofsky, one of Canada’s leading experts on suicide prevention — she became an Order of Canada member in 2007 in recognition of her years of service in this field — said the idea of a national suicide prevention number is something leaders in the distress centre community have championed for many years, getting started on partnerships to push the idea into reality in 2015. “We knew we needed a reasonable plan, and some pilot money. Once we had that we could start organizing. It’s been an ambitious goal to build capacity. If you increase access to a service like this, it means you need adequate resources and proper staffing to ensure success.”

It’s “a massive undertaking to provide universal access to a national suicide number,” she added, “but it’s definitely a worthy goal that will normalize asking for help.” While the many details surrounding funding, technological infrastructure, linking services, and training across the country are being worked out, Letofsky is optimistic that the partner organizations will continue to develop the best model for Canada.

Organizations that have been working with the MHCC and CASP include the Canadian Mental Health Association, the Centre for Addiction and Mental Health (CAMH), the Public Health Agency of Canada, Veterans Affairs Canada, and Kids Help Phone. Together, they’ve also consulted with organizations such as 113 Suicide Prevention in the Netherlands and the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration in the U.S., which also has a hybrid model that lets people choose to either text or phone the three-digit number.

More than anything, said Letofsky, the key to providing a quality service will be to ensure that those who answer the phones are “responders who are well trained in listening.”

It’s that one-on-one connection made between a caring human being and another in distress that’s critical. “Let’s not get caught up in numbers, statistics, and algorithms. Every person is unique. We don’t want to lose the personal story.”

The MHCC offers webinars, toolkits, learning modules, and a range of other resources on its Suicide Prevention page.

is the author of After Daniel: A Suicide Survivor’s Tale. She teaches in the journalism programs at Carleton University and Algonquin College in Ottawa.

Moira Farr

An award-winning journalist, author, and instructor, with degrees from Ryerson and the University of Toronto. Her writing has appeared in The Walrus, Canadian Geographic, Chatelaine, The Globe and Mail and more, covering topics like the environment, mental health, and gender issues. When she’s not teaching or editing, Moira freelances as a writer, having also served as a faculty editor in the Literary Journalism Program at The Banff Centre for the Arts.

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